If you are new to counselling it can be quite daunting to come along for the first time. I will try to explain my approach using as little jargon as possible and,of course, answer any questions you may have about the process. It is, however, easier to experience counselling than to describe it.
Everyone is different and some people find counselling really helpful, others less so. The relationship with your counsellor can determine how successful the counselling is. For this reason it is very important that you find someone who you feel comfortable to work with; and that you know it is okay to end the counselling if the relationship (sometimes called the therapeutic alliance) doesn’t feel right for you.
Like the trees we are all different. Their shapes are determined not only by the kind of tree they are but also by the way they respond to being buffeted by what life brings. They flourish as they learn to bend and grow in different directions, to change with the seasons, and to regrow.
I believe it is important to establish a relationship in which we collaborate as equal partners. I provide a safe and non-judgemental space to enable you to explore whatever is going to be helpful to you. I work primarily from what is called a person-centred experiential approach, but I may offer other flexible and creative techniques where these might be helpful to you. We will talk regularly about what you want to get out of your counselling and what your goals might be. I won’t tell you what to do but I will support you while you explore the things that concern you.
When working with couples, my approach draws on what is called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This therapy focuses on the emotional attachment bond between a couple by exploring the couple’s own negative cycle and then taking small steps to achieve a stronger connection with each other.